Cross References Help

I'm sure this question has an easy answer. Just can't figure it out on my own.

How do I design a situation where I can have multiple cross-references
created for my records?

My current setup:
tblResources
-ResourceID
-ResourceText

tblCrossReferences
-ParentResourceID
-ChildResourceID

I have a many to many relationship. But here is where it falls apart.

If I am on record 1 and I create cross references to records 2, 3, and 4 in
the cross references subform, then I navigate on the main form to record 2, I
want to be able to see the cross reference linking records 1 and 2. But since
the sfrmCrossReferences is linked to the ParentResourceID, it doesn't show
that these two resources have been linked when I am on record 2.

Is there a way to show this?

Any help would sure be greatly appreciated.